Daring Greatly was launched last September 2012 and written by Brene Brown. This book is about having the courage to be vulnerable in a society where everyone wants to look strong, assertive, and like they know what they’re doing. Shame is one of the unavoidable aspects of the human experience. We’ve all experienced the feeling of shame. Whether the feeling of embarrassment, humiliation, or guilt. And this aspect is actually damaging for a person’s life. This might lead to stopping us from living up to our full potential.
You’ll learn exactly what guilt is and where it comes from in this book. You’ll learn how it creates a sense of unworthiness and how it’s pervasive in our culture.
Brene Brown says we could be vulnerable in our lives. Because embracing vulnerability means being courageous.
Here are the top 3 lessons that we can learn by reading Daring Greatly:
- Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the most accurate measurement of courage.
- To get rid of your shame, you must first understand it and then speak it.
- Be a role model to children since they will only become who you are.
Brene’s ideas in this book will touch your life.
Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the most accurate measurement of courage.
Vulnerability isn’t a good or bad thing. It’s a part of life that everyone is experiencing and that means we are able to feel things. Accepting that you are vulnerable is a sign of strength and courage. Avoiding the things that make us vulnerable is a lot easier to do than leaning unto them. But that also means there are a lot of things that we are missing out on.
We think that vulnerability is associated with emotions like fear, grief, or sadness. In fact, we can feel the emotions of love, joy, empathy, and a lot more positive emotions.
“I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let’s think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow—that’s vulnerability.” – Brene Brown
To get rid of your shame, you must first understand it and then speak it.
Shame sometimes makes us feel we want to give up but have you tried saying what you feel ashamed of? Saying out loud what makes you feel ashamed takes a lot of power from shame. We might feel that talking about shame is uncomfortable but you will realize how much power it has. Try dragging it out and addressing it directly. You will then see that things aren’t that worrisome as you think they are. You’ll also discover that failing isn’t the end of the world.
Be a role model to children since they will only become who you are.
Even if you don’t have your own kids, if kids are seeing you, you might want to be a role model to them. We all know that what children see the adults are doing, they will copy. Because for them, everything that adults are doing is correct. If you are feeling shameful, the kids will be traumatized by making them feel the same. It will be an adult’s job to make a home and a family a shame-free zone. So kids will grow up feeling loved, worthy and will be allowed to be who they genuinely are.
To live a life free of shame, we must learn to unconditionally love ourselves. And to trust our intrinsic merit when engaging with friends, family, and coworkers. We dare to be vulnerable in this way since failure and rejection can’t take away our sense of worthiness. We can build deeper relationships with others by embracing our vulnerabilities, putting ourselves out there, and being engaged.
About the Author
Image Source: Brené Brown
- Brown has spent decades studying the topics of courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy.
- Brown has spent her research career as a professor at her alma mater. It’s the University of Houston’s Graduate College of Social Work.
- In 2009 Houston Woman Magazine voted Brown one of the city’s most influential women.
Source: Brené Brown From Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia
You might also enjoy
Books by the Author
Brown’s Selected works
- “Feminist Standpoint Theory” and “Shame Resilience Theory”. In S. P. Robbins, P. Chatterjee & E. R. Canda (Eds.), Contemporary human behavior theory: A Critical Perspective for Social Work. Boston: Allyn and Bacon. 560 pp. ISBN 978-0134779263 Published 2007.
- I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power. Avery. 336 pp. ISBN 978-1592403356 (2007)
- Connections: A 12-Session Psychoeducational Shame-Resilience Curriculum. Center City, MN: Hazelden. ISBN 978-1592857425 (2009)
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Center City, MN: Hazelden. 160 pp. ISBN 978-1592858491 (2010)
- Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead. New York City: Gotham. 320 pp. ISBN 978-1592408412 (2012)
- Rising Strong: The Reckoning, the Rumble, the Revolution. Spiegel & Grau, now Random House. 352 pp. ISBN 978-0812985801 (2015)
- Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. Random House. 208 pp. ISBN 978-0812985818 (2017)
- Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. Random House. 320 pp. ISBN 978-0399592522 (2018)
- The Gifts of Imperfection (10th Anniversary Edition). 256 pp. ISBN 0593133587 (2020)