Drinking Out Of Control and Going Cold Turkey

Cutting out alcohol was more by accident.  When I first moved to Australia in June of 2011, I got a job at a bar downtown within the first two weeks of landing working Friday and Saturday nights.  Another week later, I got a marketing job with an investment firm.  I worked at both places for the first six months of being in Melbourne.  Loved it.  I had a fantastic time, but I also realized how much people drink in Australia.  It is so normalized how much people drink, no one bats an eyelid when a heavily pregnant woman drinks a bottle of wine.


Within the first six months of living in Australia is also when I was raped by someone whom I thought was a friend.  He was telling me on Facebook how happy he was with his new girlfriend and his new life.  He asked to catch up in person and I agreed.  We met at a bar that was close to my apartment.  He ordered Long Island Iced Tea and Long Island Iced Tea.  The last thing I remember was that I was blacked out on my bed, naked, alone, and in pain.  After that, I had gone into another spiral of self-destruction.  I didn’t report the incident until I moved to London and someone mentioned that men often get away with rapes as no one reports it.  Before this, I’ve buried this memory for years.  Then it was like someone opened the floodgate and I burst into tears and sobbed.  I reported the incident anonymously online.  He was still a Facebook friend.  I recalled as much as I could, but the memories are blurry.  I wanted to make sure at least the police would have his name on file.  If he’s done it to me, the likelihood he’s done it to other women.  Perhaps if someone else reports it in the future, they will believe her as he already has prior complaints.  

My original Working Holiday Visa was only good for six months, so I had to leave both jobs and start the new year of 2012 homeless and jobless (more in the Australia chapter). 

I got sponsored to work in one of the world’s largest real estate consultancies. It was where I became good friends with my colleagues, and thus where the drinking really started.

Also, it was common practice to go out with friends to bars and drink until we are blind.  

It was one time when I met Rogier that I was able to party with him all night till 7 AM, sober. It changed my outlook on drinking and having fun.  I was going through a rough patch and meeting the new group of friends put me off alcohol, cold turkey.

It was one time when I met Rogier that I was able to party with him all night till 7 AM, sober. It changed my outlook on drinking and having fun.  I was going through a rough patch and meeting the new group of friends put me off alcohol, cold turkey.

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Challenge

Do you also think you should quit drinking?  Let’s start with changing your identity.  You are no longer a drinker!  Let me know what happens, please!

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